Five Paws

Today I would like to share with you all a little story of me and my family finding happiness in Four little paws!
My family had shifted from our old house to a new one in August 2020. I myself am not a person who accepts change easily. I was reluctant for even going to a new place. But the circumstances were such that we had to relocate. After denying the new changes and crying over old memories we finally left our old home and shifted to a new one in the same city.
The day we arrived at our new home; I found a new friend. The new friend I had made is a doggo. She used to visit our house daily and sleep near the front door on our doormat. I guess, that doormat was her own little cozy bed. Me, mom-dad and my elder sister, we all were initially a little scared of the new doggo but as the time passed, we all became good friends. I named her Biscuit!
It was 2nd November 2020. Biscuit became a mommy and delivered four little puppies at our home. It was like a festival that day. I remember how my mom made a traditional Indian sweet dish for Biscuit and our neighbors were visiting to see these little cuties. We as a family had seen first time in our life four little newborn puppies and we were happier than ever before.
I named the puppies Burrito, Nugget, Caramel and Coco.
In my childhood, I always avoided going near dogs. For me Dogs just used to be a bunch of big scary animals that were somehow out to get me. There were two separate incidents when a dog came running at me and I tripped and fell down. I even used to get nightmares where dogs were chasing me and I wasn’t able to run fast even though I tried my best.
It was not until my graduation that I overcame the fear of dogs or cats. But becoming foster parents to these Four paws was something I could have had never imagined.
A lot has changed since 2nd November, 2020. All the four puppies are now almost 3 months old and have grown beautifully! They respond to their names and fight with each other on and off for food (obviously). Biscuit has stopped visiting the house frequently because her pups never let her sit in peace. She instead now sleeps in the parking lot of our society.
Here are some points I would really like to share with you all:

  • Dogs/ pets are the perfect friends you will ever find in your life!
  • You will experience another level of love and happiness towards another living being that you may not have had experienced before.
  • When a little doggo walks towards you with hope of being patted, it’s the best feeling in this world!
  • My family, even though being afraid of dogs, has now become a dog-lover family. In fact, my mom and dad are the ones who give breakfast to the puppies early in the morning.
  • Being with them reduces stress, anxiety, depression and increases the levels of your happiness hormones.
  • Not all changes are bad. ‘Changes’ might be scary initially, but you never know what beautiful blessing is awaiting you on the other side.
  • You can find your own happiness in anything you want, if you are willing to be happy.
    I guess, after all that denying for getting relocated, it was best thing that ever happened to us. We truly found abundant happiness, adventure and whole of lot of life with this family of five-doggo. Love a pet/ animal. Care for him/her and you will be astonished to see how healthy it is for yourself.
    [Note: If you are a Dog lover, you must watch “A dog’s Purpose”- A Dog’s Purpose is a 2017 American comedy-drama adventure film directed by Lasse Hallström and written by W. Bruce Cameron, Cathryn Michon, Audrey Wells, Maya Forbes, and Wally Wolodarsky, based on the 2010 novel of the same name by W. Bruce Cameron. Available on amazon prime]

How happy are you?

What is your definition of ‘Happiness’? Have you ever pondered on why your monkey mind keeps jumping from one ‘accomplishment tree’ to the other?
According to my observation Happiness is a ‘Variable’. A variable is something that will keep changing with the passage of time or other dependent factors. Your happiness can never be constant, it can be Consistent for a particular duration but never permanent. The things you want today, may not be required by you tomorrow and vice-versa. That’s the exact reason why your monkey mind is jumping from one accomplishment tree to the other.
It took me a long time to realize that what really made me happy has never been a constant. I used to find myself being unhappy or constantly complaining about the things that were not there or were missing from my life. We all have been big ‘complainers’ at some point in our journey, from complaining about the day not going according to your plan or complaining about the luxuries that you can’t afford. Unhappiness is often dragged in by this ‘complaining’ and ‘regretting’.
The view from where you are seeing your life, might not be the same for another person. People usually suggest a change in perspective or to consider somebody else’s point of view, when we are stuck under certain circumstances. It’s true, a change of perspective helps, and so does a different point of view. What may not be a happy lifestyle for you, might be a mere dream for another.
One person’s candy is often another one’s meal.
In a TEDx Talk by Barry Margerum – 2018, he said that, “Because we want everything to go the way we want when the world is a windy road, we get stressed out.”
Since childhood we have been told to be cautious, to be away from the uncertainties, to play safe and be safe. What happens in reality is, that there is no such thing as a ‘Predictable life’. There is a reason why we don’t get a manual on ‘how to live’ the day we are born. But we still can try to create our own manual for ‘being a happy soul in the midst of a windy road’.
“Happiness is a gift and the trick is not to expect it, but to delight in it when it comes.” – Charles Dickens.
People nowadays have started keeping a gratitude diary, and it indeed helps in lifting up the fog in front of our eyes that prevents us from seeing happiness in little moments. I myself have been maintaining a Gratitude diary for some time now and it really cheers me up to see that, ‘if noticed’ many little things happening around you each day can bring abundant happiness!
Make sure to train your eyes for seeing the good in uncertainties. Life will always be Unpredictable and you can’t keep blaming it for your failed expectations. If you really want to be happy, just try creating your own happiness by having a change in your perspective. No matter how hard it may seem, it will be worth it because you will be choosing your own happiness instead of just doing nothing and frowning over the unchangeable past.
Well, we all know that Happiness is truly a ‘Gift’, and I really hope that you are able to find your happiness in the “Present”.

Subtle Art of letting go

Our human brain is programmed to go through at least 6,000 thoughts in a single day or more than that. Most of our thoughts are reoccurring. What happens here is, when we keep getting these reoccurring thoughts, we get accustomed to dragging these thoughts together for longer durations. We don’t realize if they are good or bad, we just keep carrying the baggage all along.
In a recent episode of Rick and Morty (A cartoon series on Netflix- season 4- episode 4), the writer introduced a character of a cat who could talk. Anyone who encountered the cat kept asking it how it was able to talk and all it said was, “It doesn’t matter how. Maybe it’s time you stopped asking questions and started having fun”.
The viewers and fans of the show couldn’t understand till the end of the episode, why the cat could talk and what was its importance in the show. Many viewers even started coming up with theories about what the cat’s origin maybe or how it was able to talk. The show creators later revealed that, the cat was just introduced in to the episode ‘for fun’. There was no hidden motive behind it. The creators even stated that, ‘not everything needs analyzation and overthinking’. That was basically what the cat was trying to convey, ‘to just stop asking questions and start having fun’.
“Don’t underestimate the value of doing nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering” – Piglet, Pooh’s little instruction book, inspired by A.A. Milne.
It’s in the little moments, the silent ones and in the ones where you can just ‘be’.
We are living in a tech dominant century where competition is everything. We keep running around our daily lives like little hamsters on a running wheel while we always have the option to just stop and enjoy. To just live in the moment.
We always have the choice, to step out of the wheel, to pause and breathe.
Just listen to that music you always love listening to, take a walk or just lay down. Whatever that makes you happy. Do it. Your heart always knows what really makes it happy and it will guide you if you are willing to listen to it. Learn that subtle art of letting toxic thoughts and people go.
(Write the below quote in your journal / paper if you want to and put it up on your board / refrigerator. Little things like these are helping me a lot in motivating towards giving less energy to toxic thoughts; hopefully it will help you too.)
“Today I am making the decision to let go of the things that don’t make me happy. I am letting go, happily.”- Winne the Pooh
Yes, it indeed is ‘easy’ to just be happy.